No One Else Mattered

Posted by Leticia, 26 Apr 16

Soon after meeting on our site, Alan and Stephanie realized their relationship was special. In fact, they felt so strongly for one another that taking the next step seemed natural.

“He proposed to me on one knee, at sunset, near the lake at a place that was very special to him, because it was the spot where he’d watched the sunset with his father for the last time before his father passed on,” Stephanie relates. “I was touched that he’d brought me to that spot to see the sunset! Then he got down on one knee and pulled out the beautiful ring. I didn’t see it coming... and I cried like a five year old. We’re talking snot bubbles! And of course I said yes.”

What led up to this wonderful moment? Stephanie started dating online because “I wasn’t finding the type of guy I’d be interested in being in a long-term with, and I was curious as to what online dating had to offer. I’ve never limited myself to one race and I wanted to meet someone with the same relationship goals as mine.”

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Still, she wasn’t certain this was the right move. “I was hopeful, but at the same time I was being careful, so I’d say I was confident but realistic,” explains Stephanie.

Alan knew he wanted to use online dating to meet women of other races and/or cultures. “Your site was not the first,” he tells us. “I tried other sites, but I wasn’t satisfied with them.”

What convinced him to post a profile? “I felt more comfortable trying to date outside of my race online, rather than approaching women in person,” Alan explains. He put his odds of success at “50/50, probably.”

By that point Stephanie had been with us for some time. “I’d been a member off and on for three years,” she recalls. “I’d closed my account for about a year, then went back on and met Alan two days later.”

Here’s what happened — she noticed a new member who’d joined a month earlier. The username was “Buckeye_Guy” and guess who the profile belonged to? “I reached out to Alan with a Flirt and he messaged me back,” says Stephanie. “And from that moment on, no one else mattered to either of us. He was the one, and I knew it.”

So what was so great about this guy, anyway? “He was hot!” laughs Stephanie. “Awesome blue eyes and he was a family man looking for a long-term relationship, like me. We thought alike in a lot of subjects, and we still do. We complete each other’s sentences.”

Alan is more concise about why he responded to “Amflady” (Stephanie). “Her picture!”

It wasn’t long before the duo decided to meet on the other side of the screen. As Stephanie tells it, “We got along so well, and we had talked for awhile on FaceTime. It was just time to meet.”

In person, Stephanie wasn’t disappointed. “OMG!! He’s even hotter in real life!” The photo of Stephanie that Alan saw didn’t lead him astray, either. “She’s beautiful!” he remembers thinking at the time.

They were so taken with each other’s good looks that nerves became a bit of an issue. “I was actually surprised by how nervous I was,” admits Stephanie. “I’ve never been nervous meeting new people, but with him, my heart was pumping and my hands were sweating.”

For Alan, the most surprising thing about their first date was “How well we clicked.” He was “110% sure” he wanted to see Stephanie again.

“We didn’t even want to say goodbye,” she declares. “I hated watching his car go down the street... so yeah — we’d already planned the next date before he left.”

Once they started dating in earnest, this couple-in-the-making found their attraction went more than skin deep. “I appreciate what a true gentleman he is,” notes Stephanie. Something Alan really values about Stephanie is “how loving and caring she is.”

Asked if they are each other’s type, they both say yes. “100% on point!” Stephanie says. “Completely similar” is Alan’s response.

The wheels turned quickly for these two and before long they were thinking marriage. Alan explains why he popped the question. “[This relationship] made me look forward to my second half of life. I’m looking forward to growing old with her.”

Stephanie is overjoyed to have met her match. “I’m happier now,” She says. “My soul is at peace because I finally found its mate.”

Now that they’ve found each other, the couple can concentrate on helping others along their own road toward love. “Hang in there,” Stephanie says, first and foremost. “I would get frustrated and delete my profile for a few months, all the time! But you gotta get back in there. Eventually you will find the one who is meant for you — just be patient, they always come when you need them the most and when you least expect them. Also if you want a long-term relationship, don’t get involved with anyone who just wants to be friends or just date. Only engage those who want the same type of relationship you do. And make sure you share the same interests and even the same (or similar) religion. Those issues are important for long-term compatibility.”

As usual, Alan’s words are few but direct. “Follow — and believe in — what you want. Don’t settle.”

Right now the only thing these two are settling on is a china pattern for the wedding.

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  1.   Besibella says:
    Posted: 14 Jul

    So encouraging,the advice given here prepares one to be patient and calm, to hold on until one's half surfaces. May the Almighty God bless their marriage

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  2.   Besibella says:
    Posted: 14 Jul

    So encouraging,the advice given here prepares one to be patient and calm, to hold on until one's half surfaces. May the Almighty God bless there marriage

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  3.   Josmwash says:
    Posted: 30 Jun

    May their relationship last for Long

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  4.   Kulchamania says:
    Posted: 25 Jun

    Very touching piece. Every moment and situation has a purpose. Congratulations to them both.

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  5.   Butleh says:
    Posted: 05 Jun

    Congratulations! May God bless their relationship forever

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  6.   Peaches1115 says:
    Posted: 28 May

    I'm looking for my white chocolates. A man that's consistent, goal oriented, knows what he wants and goes after it. A gentleman a man with chivalry a man that's honest a man with character. A man that likes to laugh and have humor. Are you out there? I'm looking for you.

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  7.   Hze says:
    Posted: 24 May

    Great and their dreams have come true, its true love

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  8.   Kkart says:
    Posted: 18 May

    When a heart desire is met, no word or statement can explain the inner joy. I think it is a wonderful experience which I look up to in the near future.

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  9.   Nyakio254 says:
    Posted: 17 May

    I really admire this couple

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  10.   Marieroses says:
    Posted: 13 May

    I just wanted to be happy like these people...alots laughing, smiling and fun...wow real love.......

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  11.   Floridaflo says:
    Posted: 14 Apr

    Congratulations

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  12.   Farnga says:
    Posted: 13 Apr

    I know one day I will be like you guys, I will get my perfect match, I know

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  13.   Rkshu says:
    Posted: 01 Apr

    nice

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  14.   Celvee254 says:
    Posted: 25 Mar

    Hi guys it's so awesome, I'm also on the same situations hopping one day my better half gonna show himself to me, thank for interracial for us members

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  15.   Nanayaa20 says:
    Posted: 19 Mar

    Congratulations.

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  16.   Tazorora says:
    Posted: 04 Mar

    Woooow lucky they found true love. Keep up the. Fire burning

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  17.   bb1banks says:
    Posted: 02 Mar

    Awesome

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  18.   Phanice31 says:
    Posted: 01 Mar

    Nice story

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  19.   Alphine7 says:
    Posted: 22 Feb

    Wow that's encouraging, and it gives confidence that there are serious members.

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  20.   Olumidajay says:
    Posted: 18 Feb

    I need to chip in this point... There are so many genuine Africans on the dating site that are sincerely searching for true love beyond the borders and continent. It's high time we need to change the negativity of mindsets towards Africans generally

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    • LadyC293 says:
      Posted: 01 Mar

      This is very encouraging for me because i have never dated on line

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  21.   Olumidajay says:
    Posted: 18 Feb

    I'm happy for them... Keeping my fingers crossed to share my story as well

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    • Styzie says:
      Posted: 08 Jun

      I like there you're ending by saying that there are genuine Africans searching for true love. I blv in your words

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  22.   Massuedom says:
    Posted: 13 Feb

    Beautiful

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  23.   Lourdita says:
    Posted: 29 Jan

    so awesome site to meet the soulmate

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  24.   Neymo4 says:
    Posted: 26 Jan

    Thankyou for wonderful story

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  25.   khem1234 says:
    Posted: 21 Jan

    Congratulation

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  26.   Rachael2us says:
    Posted: 18 Jan

    So lovely..... I wish you both all the best of love....

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  27. Posted: 07 Jan

    Stephanie I wanna congratulate you for having met Alan a true man and a believer .I wanna thank you and Alan for the good advice you people made. A wonderful and inspiring story . Thanks to best interracial site ,Leticia and her excellent team.

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  28.   Guddu99 says:
    Posted: 05 Dec 18

    Thanks gods to make a wonderful love story

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  29.   Carlbry says:
    Posted: 05 Dec 18

    Congrats, true love never dies

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  30.   Vikram8926 says:
    Posted: 21 Nov 18

    Nice one. Made for each other

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  31.   Heartsy says:
    Posted: 16 Nov 18

    Wonderful story best of luck to both of you.

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  32.   Annieiffy says:
    Posted: 19 Oct 18

    Nice one

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  33.   Rorih says:
    Posted: 07 Oct 18

    Wonderfully! Good lucky ❤❤❤

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  34.   Cebtr says:
    Posted: 27 Sep 18

    Congrats guys

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  35.   Borbi says:
    Posted: 24 Sep 18

    I wish you conjugal bliss forever.

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  36.   Rozeline says:
    Posted: 21 Sep 18

    Congratulations to you two

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    • Roy2478 says:
      Posted: 13 Jan

      Hi beautiful, How are you doing?. May i ask know about you ☺

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  37.   OG_Patson says:
    Posted: 13 Sep 18

    Congrats

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  38.   CHARLDOTA says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 18

    Lovely ❤

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  39.   Macah says:
    Posted: 14 Aug 18

    Congrats

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  40.   12243 says:
    Posted: 11 Aug 18

    Awsm

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  41. Posted: 16 Jul 18

    I love her concluding part of being focussed and knowing what you want,i think that is why we put a profile. I wouldnt feel fine someone below my age to flirt or wink at me. I actually ignore. Am still waiting positively. Thank you Stephanie and Alan.

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  42.   Pndo says:
    Posted: 14 Jul 18

    Really nice. I hope al be the next one to give my story of love beyond borders

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  43. Posted: 30 Jun 18

    Wandarfull

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  44.   Alafiha says:
    Posted: 29 Jun 18

    gud,congratulations to d both parties nd may i have same story to share soon.

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  45.   Udhaykumar says:
    Posted: 20 Jun 18

    Congratulations

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  46.   P_12345 says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 18

    Hi hi

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  47.   P_12345 says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 18

    Hi

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  48.   Tiini says:
    Posted: 08 Jun 18

    Thats is a very sweet story,I will also share mine when i get tat true loving and caring person.

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  49.   Xtama says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 18

    Wow this story is very inspiring ,I definitely would be scared to approach any man what if he doesn't like me lol, is so difficult to find someone who loves u for u especially when they find out u are from Africa ( Nigeria and Ghana precisely), one told me he hates smelly feet, another said our bride price is a way of extorting money and said we Africans are corrupt people,or they say I like your body,I like ticklish feet. They use people as experiment ,love is difficult to find, wish this mindset could change

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    • Excellent256 says:
      Posted: 16 Jul 18

      They are just insensitive,do we all have smelly feet or what they think?? I believe we should come with open minds and let God do the match without us being judgemental or having high expectations. If you are meant for eachother,the chemistry will workout automatically i believe. Just love yourself,it conquers it all.

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  50.   Nilushan says:
    Posted: 30 May 18

    Congratulations

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